What is FOMO? 🧐
FOMO, or the fear of missing out, is the psychological phenomenon that describes the feeling of anxiety or insecurity when we feel disconnected from others who are enjoying something we're not a part of. It often leads us to make impulsive decisions, such as attending events or activities that we're not interested in, simply because we're afraid of missing out.
Why Do We Norm-Match? 🧠
As social creatures, we have a natural tendency to want to belong and avoid social isolation. Norm matching, or the tendency to match the behavior of those around us, can cause us to make choices that may not be right for us. For example, we may go out drinking with friends even if we don't want to just to feel included or buy a certain car because our neighbors have the same one.
It’s therefore important to surround ourselves with people whose norms we aspire to and want to emulate, making healthier decisions that align with our values and interests.
Understanding the Psychology of It:
The Need for Connection 🔒
When we see others enjoying themselves, we feel left out and disconnected. This can trigger a sense of anxiety and insecurity, leading to impulsive behavior.
The Fear of Regret 😨
We often worry that if we miss out on an opportunity, we'll regret it later. This can lead us to make impulsive decisions, such as attending events or activities we're not interested in, simply because we're afraid of missing out. This behavior can be harmful to our mental health and well-being, leaving us feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied.
The Illusion of Perfection 🙌💯
Social media often portrays a highly curated and idealized version of reality, which can make us feel inadequate and inferior. We see images of people traveling to exotic destinations, attending glamorous events, and enjoying luxurious lifestyles. This can lead us to feel that our own lives are boring and uneventful, which can trigger feelings of FOMO.
To manage our FOMO and make healthier decisions, it's important to recognize these psychological factors that contribute to it. Remember, it's okay to say no to social events and activities that don't resonate with us, and we should prioritize our mental health and well-being above all else. By understanding the psychology of FOMO, and surrounding ourselves with people who’s norms we aspire to, we can learn to make healthier decisions that align with our values and interests. 💚